One son’s story

“There was never any question that I would take care of my parents when they needed me. . .”

After my father died, my mother did pretty well on her own until she reached 85. That’s when she couldn’t drive any more, and her hearing was failing and I began to notice that she was having problems with her short-term memory.

At first, it was easy enough to visit every other week, buy groceries, pick up her prescriptions, take care of minor fix-ups around her house. I began to wonder if she were eating right and she definitely had trouble remembering to take her blood pressure medicine.

My mom started complaining of little aches and pains—her feet hurt, her “tummy” was upset, she was having trouble working the microwave. I have to say that’s when I began to wonder if she would be able to stay in her home—although she refused to discuss any other living arrangement.

I noticed that she’d often be wearing the same blouse when I’d visit. I opened the clothes dryer one day, and there was a stack of mail and a couple of books inside. “Mom,” I asked with some degree of alarm. “Have you been able to wash and dry your clothes?” Oh, yes, she tried to assure me. I confronted her about the papers in the dryer and she told me she was washing clothes by hand in the sink. She seemed to have trouble using the washer and dryer.

Many alarm bells were going off for me after that. Nobody tells you what to expect when your mom starts to have trouble with even the simplest, most basic parts of life. And nobody tells you how frustrated and helpless you will feel when trying to confront your parent—who still holds on to the original parent-child relationship. She would get upset and say, “Your father never told me what to do.” It was really tough for a couple of months.

She was so isolated by her hearing loss, and I wondered if she was experiencing depression and loneliness, which probably go hand-in-hand. I lived more than an hour’s drive away, and it was so difficult to communicate on the phone even though I checked in every day.

I asked some friends about their parents and looked on the Internet for solutions. I didn’t really want my mom to live with me, and she wouldn’t hear of it, anyway. “I want to live in my own house until I die,” she would say—often and forcefully. That’s when I began to see the possibilities of home healthcare and talked to the folks at CVHC. . .”

EVERY ADULT CHILD WILL FACE SOME OF THESE ISSUES. . .and every situation will be different, but so much will be the same.

HOME HEALTH CARE from CVHC provides solutions in a wide range and variety, in order to meet the specific needs of each patient and his or her family.

WE OFFER SKILLED CARE AND SERVICES, with specialty areas in cardiac/vascular/pulmonary care, and a dedicated program of geriatric care and services. WE CAN HELP.

HEALTHCARE CONCIERGE offers solutions for you in assisting and caring for your aging parent or loved one. Some of our services will be covered by Medicare and supplemental insurance, but the time period for home health coverage and/or the number of visits may be limited. We offer a menu of PRIVATE PAY services to help you continue important home-based services so that your parent can enjoy the best quality of life and remain independent (with assistance) at home for as long as possible.

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